It has been said that our loved ones often know us better than we often know ourselves. Yes, we are all very much isolated in our own heads, bodies and most especially our perceptions…but the significant others in our lives have a vantage point of us that we will never have privy to.

And we to them.

Now if you are lucky enough to have a partner, friend, or colleague that is privy to you in your more human moments, and they are able to reflect to you not solely love, admiration and praise… but also when you perhaps need to pause, reconsider, reflect or just all out apologize for your all-to-human behavior… then you are very lucky indeed; for you have a good friend.

Now what the heck does this have to do with memory foam?

Well, quite frankly…memory is not a good friend. In fact, memory foam is a terrible friend. This is especially true if it happens to be what your mattress is made out of…


Well, memory foam is like a friend, loved one or employee that just tells you what you want to hear. They do not reflect reality as they see it to you, and they do not give the firm and honest feedback that you may need to know. They do not give you support to lean on; instead, they give into the pressure of you.

And while that may be something that any of us may like in the moment, ultimately it is more harm than help.

This is probably because feedback can sometimes be rough to hear, especially when it is constructive…and most especially when you are living with the hope of being perfect just the way you are. However, maturity and the process of getting there can be awkward and often times uncomfortable.

The truth seems to be that none of us are perfect. We are all doing our best, and regardless of how much you may prefer a certain way or manner to do things or have things done… you may have to make some adjustments along the way if there is a certain outcome you are going for.

After all, our posture is in many ways a reflection of who we are as a person.

So, when it comes to laying down, resting, and getting a good nights sleep… it is us that needs to settle out on the ground; not the ground shift and settle around us.

Despite and regardless of its popularity in the last decade, never before in the history of the human species have we sat, sagged or slept on a surface like memory foam.

When it comes to resting, reclining and sleeping…well, we probably have evolved to sleep perfectly fine on the earth itself.

Be it a field, packed sand on a beach, or a forest floor…for the entire history of our species we have had to adjust ourselves to ground; not the ground adjust to us. We have had to let go, and allow ourselves to settle out. As we are able to do that, we are rewarded with a restorative nights rest.

Memory foam tends to break all the rules, and allows you to maintain that preferred rigid shape that you have been in for your whole day.




Admittedly though, you will arise the next morning very much still toned up in that exact same shape…but at least you got some good sleep right?


Sound sleep does not mean you are still all night long. You are meant to ideally shift your body position throughout the night, as you move through different phases of sleep. It is an important part of allowing for drainage throughout various body systems, including our brain.

Now, if you have ever tried to sleep, or you do sleep on a memory foam mattress, then you know quite well that it does not simply support you in your preferred daily shape…it also prevents you from deviating from it.

Perhaps now it may seem a bit more apparent what I meant by memory foam being a terrible friend.

All that said, I am sure you are wondering what would be a better option when it comes to the surface we sleep on all night long?

Well, if you would like to know the answer to that question, as well as some bigger insights as to how and why memory foam mattresses can have a negative impact on your wellbeing, feel encouraged to watch the video below.

Why Memory Foam creates more problems than it solves…

If you have any questions about the above, please do not hesitate to reach out.

Regardless, I hope you find the above helpful, and I hope you are comfortable, able… and very well rested.